So I am writing it down for posterity. I tried my hand at online dating many years ago and had some funny stories come out of it, but aside from sharing them with my co-workers, no one got to enjoy my tribulations and (hilarious) observations of these interactions.
First, a little backstory. I will try to make it as short as possible. In my early 20s, I dated Bill Clevenger (all names have been changed to protect the guilty) for 3 years. I had fun w/ him. But looking back, we were not a good match. I stayed with him because I had low self-esteem and he was interested in me when no one else seemed to be. I settled for him because I didn’t think I could find anyone else and I didn’t want to be alone. Oh my, mid-20s me.
Eventually, shit hit the fan and Bill & I parted ways. Dude ended up getting married within 6 months of our official quit date. I was so sad at the time, but looking back, I am now so happy that wasn’t me.
After Bill, I took a short break and then did a brief online stint. I ended up meeting & dating Dante for 6 months before he ghosted me before ghosting was a term. No idea why, he just disappeared and stopped returning my calls. That was fun.
It was that experience w/ Dante that led me to the church of Oprah where I heard the words “if you don’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you?” This became my mantra and way of life as I looked inward and repaired what was broken, finally learning to accept who I was and be happy about it.
Cut to several years later and my last go ‘round with online dating, mentioned above. Someday, I will recollect those stories and share them, but let’s get to the present, shall we?